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Connections through Munches

Are you looking for that special kinky someone? Are you sitting at home wondering why they haven’t knocked on your door yet with a duffle bag full of your favorite kinky toys? I use to wonder why David Bowie wasn't knocking on my door, but then I don’t live in New York or London. So how does one go about that special someone? Okay, I know, David Bowie is taken. But how about munches and events? Have you tried them? Kinky classes are a great way of meeting people with similar interest, it is just like taking a community education class but for kink. And you do not have to wonder if the person is going to think you are weird because you are kinky, you met them in a kinky class, they are kinky too. And munches? Munches are wonderful! How do you find a munch that interests you; are you young and lively? How about a TNG munch? Are you older and more experienced? How about a 40 and those who love them munch? Are you into hypnosis? You are getting sleepy….and find yourself in a hypnosis munch. You can find munches that fit an interest or that fit a location. There are North Shore munches, South Shore munches, okay, I think you are getting the hint. The idea is to find a munch that speaks to you, and when you do, you will also find people there that have similar interest.

 I remember the first munch I went to; a friend of mine was there, so I sat with him. I met a few people; we talked about an upcoming fetish event. I was very nervous going into the munch. Looking back, there really isn't anything to be nervous about. Nobody is going to bite you, unless you want them to. I now have people asking me to bite them. When you go to a munch, find the organizer and introduce yourself. Sometimes they are easy to find, sometimes not. They sometimes position themselves so they can greet people as they walk in. At the munch I organize, I co-organize it, my co-host greets people at the door, I host at the tables. Some munches will have name tags; don’t be shy about using the name tag. The name tag helps people remember you, whether you put down your real name, your scene name or both. I put down both; most people just use my scene name. If you are very shy and can’t find the organizer, try finding a very friendly person at the munch and introduce yourself. Let them know you are shy; chances are they will introduce you around.

The energy of a munch can vary from munch to munch. People may talk about an upcoming event, or a scene they had. Sometimes they talk about vanilla subjects. But remember, when you go to a munch, it’s not the same as going to a vanilla event. People may not want to discuss where they are from or what they do for a living. If someone does not want to discuss something, do not push it.

You may not find that special someone at the first munch you go to, or the first event. But you will make friends, and through friends you will find more events to go to and more munches. And maybe at one of those events you will find that special kinky someone.

Submitted by the lovely Miss_Jena